Sunday, December 02, 2018

Finding closure when relationships end

I've been thinking of friends who are struggling from their broken relationships. They feel there's something unfinished, and they can't move on because their exes won't talk and give them the closure they need. 

Waiting for closure from exes is an exercise in futility if they are determined to cut off contact. Maybe their hearts are blocked with hurt, anger and negativity. Or they lack empathy. Or if they were deceitful, maybe they are cowards who can't take responsibility for the emotional damage they have caused. 

Whatever the reason, whether the exes may need help themselves, it's best to find your own closure through other means like creative outlets, self-care, and surrounding yourself with supportive friends. This article has more practical advice about how to get closure from a relationship.

Starting a new journey may seem daunting at first, but it is liberating to move into a period of soul-searching, and self-discovery. It may take time to heal, but when we are willing to learn from negative experiences, forgive those who have hurt us, and accept that some people are meant to share our lives for a limited time, it is easier to let go, and allow our hearts to fill with love again.

Photo taken in Gainesville, Florida

Monday, November 19, 2018


Inviting you to WOMANVOICE 2018, an event organized by 
in celebration of women artists, poets, writers, singers, musicians, photographers, and more.
I will read a few poems from my book Island Lovers.
Looking forward to seeing you there.

Honey Novick on WOMANVOICE:
"WOMANVOICE was founded on the spirit to empower women and girls.  It was born of the tragedy at the Polytechnique in Montreal where 14 female students were murdered. A group of artists led by the late Susan Meurer and Lilita Tannis organized 14 women artists in 1991 at the pARTisan Gallery. I was one of the original 14 and loved it so much that I asked for permission and have been continuing the tradition for 26 years. We do not dwell on the tragedy.  We use the platform to reach out to others, explore new ideas, find our voice and make friends."

Saturday, November 17, 2018

Thank you to Tony Merante and all the Authors' Afternoon guests at Stella's Lunchbox Café

A note to inform you that there will be no Authors' Afternoon in November and December. We are taking a break and will be back on January 27th, 2019. 

I would like to thank my good friend, Tony Merante, the owner of Stellas Café for his continuous support of the arts. Without him, the Authors Afternoon would not happen. Thank you also to all the guest authors and book lovers and writers who have participated in the Authors Afternoon every last Sunday of the month. Looking forward to seeing you in January.

If you are a musician or singer, you'll be happy to hear that Tony is also the owner of Desotos and supports music every week through Sunday Jazz Brunch and Thursday Open Mics, both hosted by Anthony Abbatangeli.

Tony is gifted with boundless energy and is always coming up with new ideas. Not only has he created the most idyllic patio, lush with flowers and cosy outdoor furniture, but he has also hosted art exhibitions at both Desotos and Stella's, and movie screenings at Desotos. Lately, he's creating his own pasta made from organic ingredients. If you're interested in the culinary arts, there are currently classes in sausage making... and who knows what else he'll come up with ... come by to find out.

Stella's has become my favourite café, a little home away from home that offers great coffee, delicious food in a friendly atmosphere. A cool meeting place for creative people. When I can't focus at home, I go there to write. Hope you'll drop by some time. 

Tony Merante, owner of Stella's Lunchbox Café and Desotos

Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Dancing my heart out

Hope you all had a fun Halloween. I was dancing my heart out tonight and would like to share my love of music and dance in this photo collage.

Moving our bodies to the rhythm of music is an innate reaction as it makes us feel lighter and carefree. When we dance away, the endorphins kick in, and we feel elated. There are so many benefits to dancing.

This article explains why dance is one of the best forms of meditation, not only for the natural high it imparts, but also for gaining control of our mind, living in the moment, and connecting with others.

And this one is about the healing effects of dance and music, and why sounds and movements promote healthier living, especially for those with physical ailments. So, surround yourself with music and dance the pain away ...

Monday, October 15, 2018

Authors' Afternoon with Sky Curtis

Inviting you to meet our multi-talented guest author, Sky Curtis. You will have a chance to talk to her about her writing journey, and the numerous books she has written. 

If you like crime fiction, you'll enjoy her Robin MacFarland Mystery Series. The first one, Flush was a finalist for the 2017 Arthur Ellis Award for Best First Crime Fiction. The second book, Plots, was launched October 1st.

If you have been affected by Crohn's Disease, you'll be interested in her books Gut Reaction: A True Story About a Mother's Fight to Save her Son's Life and his Amazing Recovery from Crohn's Disease, and The Fecal Transplant Guidebook.

She has also written several children's books. You can find more details about her books, over twenty of them, on her website. The recent ones are available on 

Looking forward to seeing you all at Stella's café on Sunday October 28th, from 2 to 4 pm.

Creativity by the water

The weather was incredibly warm and sunny on the weekend. So wonderfully magical for fall.

It felt so good to leave the city bustle and spend time by the lake. I love listening to the rippling water, and feel the soft breeze on my face while watching the reflections and shimmering colours of this large expanse of water. 

I was inspired, and started the outline for a short story about a man who lives a double life and manipulates two women who love him. His lack of conscience is beyond belief. Is he a narcissist? A psychopath? You will have a chance to discover his world when I'm done with the collection.

You may wonder why such a beautiful scenery brought about such a dark story, but creativity is an intricate mix of ideas, and can take you anywhere your analytical mind and imagination dare to probe. For me, creative writing is an expressive outlet for understanding human nature, no matter how dark it is.

Water has positive effects on us all, from inducing a calm, meditative state to boosting our health and creativity. You can read more about it in this article: Science explains how staying near water can change our brains

Tuesday, October 09, 2018

Liter-Arti 2018 A neighbourhood Arts Event

Inviting you to Liter-Arti 2018, a neighbourhood Arts Event 
organized by Honey Novick, singer, songwriter, voice teacher and poet.
It is a great honour to join the talented poets and songwriters 
who will be reading and playing music at this event.
I will read a few poems from my book Island Lovers. 
Hope to see you there.

Friday, September 21, 2018


Feel the joy of the moment
for nothing is permanent 
only change is constant

This article explains in more details what I'm expressing here:
Nothing is permanent: Letting go of attachment to people

This photo montage expresses my gratitude for all the beautiful memories
of good times gone by, and the joy of living in the now.